Your goals aren’t too big - your standards are too low
You don’t need smaller dreams. You need a bigger spine.
The comfort cult we all joined
We keep telling ourselves we’re “dreaming too big.” That our goals are unrealistic. That we’re asking too much of life.
No. You’re not asking too much. You’re tolerating too little.
See, the real issue isn’t that your dreams are out of reach. It’s that your daily standards are underground.
You say you want the life, the business, the body, the peace - but you keep making deals with mediocrity.
“Just for today” becomes “just this month” becomes “how the hell did a decade go by?”
Big goals don’t need new tools - they need new rules
You already know what to do. Google has told you 800 times.
The problem isn’t information. It’s integrity.
You break promises to yourself like it’s a hobby.
You tell yourself you’ll start Monday, then ghost yourself like a bad Tinder date.
And the worst part? You’ve gotten really good at rationalizing it.
You say things like:
- “It’s just a busy season.”
- “I need to work on my mindset first.”
- “I’ll be more consistent when I’m less stressed.”
Meanwhile, your potential is stuck in purgatory, waiting for you to stop bullshitting.
Your bar is in hell - raise it
Look at your daily minimums.
Not your dreams. Not your vision board. Your actual, lived standards.
How often do you flake on them?
How easily do you justify skipping them?
If your standards don’t scare you a little, they’re not high enough.
“I want to be healthy” means nothing if your standard is “eat like trash, sleep 4 hours, and call it self-care.”
“I want to build something big” is worthless if your standard is “do the bare minimum and bail when it’s hard.”
Goals need scaffolding. Your habits are that scaffolding. If they’re wobbly, don’t be surprised when your ambition collapses.
The myth of realistic goals
Everyone says “set realistic goals.”
But realistic to who? To your past self who gave up every time it got hard?
Or to the version of you who’s done hiding behind excuses?
Your goal doesn’t need to shrink. Your discipline needs to grow.
Your confidence doesn’t come from mindset hacks. It comes from self-trust - and self-trust comes from keeping your own damn promises.
So if you want more out of life, stop settling for less out of yourself.
Do this now
1. Write down your goal. The big one. The one you’re scared to say out loud.
2. List your current daily standards. The honest ones - not the ones you post about.
3. Ask: would this version of me ever get there?
If the answer’s no, good. You just met your starting line.
Now raise one standard. Then another. Then don’t stop until your actions finally look like they belong to the life you’re chasing.
Final slap
You don’t need a smaller dream. You need a stronger threshold for discomfort.
Growth isn’t a vibe. It’s a decision. It’s bleeding before you bloom. It’s doing the hard shit, daily, quietly, while no one claps.
Still want it?
Good. Now act like it.
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Now go do something that sucks a little - that’s where progress lives.
